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Posted: 02 December 2012 09:59 AM   [ Ignore ]
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OK guys I want to share a situation that I am involved with and I cant tell you how dissapointed I am about the outcome…

My brother and sister-in-law are getting a divorce.  You guessed it is ugly and alot of bad feelings.  They own a 200+acre farm that they purchased many years ago from my father-in-law.  Well on Friday I was up in a treestand and I get a call from my brother saying that I have to get out of the woods immediately…  His future ex called her lawyer and said that I was on the property and she feared for her life since I was hunting with a loaded firearm…  I dont need to make his situation any worse and left immediately per his lawyers request…  What absoultely upsets me the most is I am the only one who hangs tree stands, plants food plots, trims limbs, sets up trail cameras, etc.  Last week I even texted her to let her know I was going to be hunting on the property.  She wants to stick it to him soooo bad that I get tossed out.  It makes me sick to my stomach and this hatred has to have happened to someone else.  Sorry for the dirty laundry and spouting about family issues.  I just had to talk about it and hoped others could understand or had similar situations…  Im glad the lawyers are making money answering ridiculous phone calls…

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Posted: 02 December 2012 12:27 PM   [ Ignore ]   [ # 1 ]
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Now that is a terrible situation. Sorry to hear it.

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Posted: 02 December 2012 05:54 PM   [ Ignore ]   [ # 2 ]
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My advice is blood is thicker than water and your bro needs your support.  You did the right thing by leaving.  Let the dust settle on this nasty divorce and hope for the best.  Maybe approach her next summer and see where you stand.  Cross your fingers, take the high road, play the nice guy, and maybe just maybe it will work itself out.

I had a similar situation with a family member myself.  It worked out in the end

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Posted: 02 December 2012 06:06 PM   [ Ignore ]   [ # 3 ]
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Start saving like crazy I don’t care if it’s 10 20 200 500 acres buy it you will never regret it. Good luck with your situation.

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Posted: 03 December 2012 05:18 PM   [ Ignore ]   [ # 4 ]
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Andy is right, stick by your brother. And if her thinking is that crazy I would stay as far away as possible. If they have to sell I would go through your brother and his attorney and offer to buy her half, unless she bleeds your brother dry and he has to sell his half also.

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Posted: 03 December 2012 05:22 PM   [ Ignore ]   [ # 5 ]
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And I thought the drama of gun season where I am at is a pain….I feel for you…Good luck…

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Posted: 03 December 2012 05:37 PM   [ Ignore ]   [ # 6 ]
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Bob, I wish ya the best of luck with the whole deal buddy!!!Keep your chin up and everything will work out.

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Posted: 03 December 2012 06:50 PM   [ Ignore ]   [ # 7 ]
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Ok just a thought here but I’m sure your bro has an attorney.  Check with your bro 1st to see if he objects but you might call his attorney, explain the situation, and see if you can still access the property but agree to stay a specified distance from the residence and the soon to be ex wife.  He still owns the property too until the divorce is final.  I’m not 100% sure but I believe you have the right to be there just as much as she does. 

If there’s a restraining order involved I’m guessing your just screwed but it’s worth a shot.

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Posted: 03 December 2012 06:52 PM   [ Ignore ]   [ # 8 ]
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Im kind of Anti-Bowsite but on the Illinois forum one of the guys is an attorney.  He may know exactly what the law is

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Posted: 04 December 2012 06:52 PM   [ Ignore ]   [ # 9 ]
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Guys thanks for all the support. I truly appreciate it and apologize for airing the dirty family laundry. No theirs no restraining orders or anything crazy on my brothers end. The problem I have with all of this is the lawyers are the one profiting. My brothers attorney said he could get me access and he would call her attorney. That equals a several hundred dollar phone call for my brother to his attorney. I really don’t want to run up legal fees for him for my hobby. I know he would do it for me but I don’t want to cause him more stress and aggregation. And I really don’t need the crazy ex inlaw calling a sheriff and accusing me of pointing a bow or shotgun at her.

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Posted: 04 December 2012 07:35 PM   [ Ignore ]   [ # 10 ]
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Bob, If you get the ok to hunt it, Id be out there EVERY chance u got, just outta spite:)Heck id even consider some butt-naked bowhunting;)

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Posted: 04 December 2012 08:35 PM   [ Ignore ]   [ # 11 ]
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Wow!  Sorry to hear, indeed a bad situation.  Hope things work out for your spot.

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Posted: 05 December 2012 05:48 PM   [ Ignore ]   [ # 12 ]
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Sounds like you got it all figured out to me GBob!  Good things will happen for you my friend.

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